When does flirting become cheating ?

So you suspect that your partner is being unfaithful but not totally sure? Perhaps your partner is: – Behaving suspiciously? – Being secretive with their mobile phone? – Less attentive and affectionate toward you? – Spending more time on there computer/mobile – Hiding there Facebook activity or Friend list from you? – The fear that your partner is being unfaithful can take over your life. Most think it could never happen to them – when it does it’s one of the hardest things for anyone to accept. Perhaps you’re feeling lonely, hurt, vulnerable, confused, angry or just annoyed? Maybe your partner claims that you’re being paranoid or insecure to suspect them?

To take such a big step as contacting a private detective a person must have reasonable suspicion to believe that their partner is cheating. If you know your partner is up to something but cannot prove it – perhaps they have had affairs before, or admitted to being very flirty with ‘Friends’ and they think there is nothing wrong with ‘flirting’. But if your with someone who is willing to flirt/cheat then it’s better that you get to know about it, before they waste any more of your life being together. So how far would you be willing to go to find out this information and how much are you willing to spend?

The way I see it a relationship is built around a set of boundaries, expectations and agreements. A person that likes to flirt online can do so if they want to but that is something that must be acknowledged and excepted by their partner. If their partner doesn’t want them to flirt online then they should either stop or not be in that relationship.

Private Investigation rates vary depending which agency you go with and what you would like them to do. Honeytrap rates are generally based on a fixed fee and dependent on sessions needed. There investigation fee is £45.00 per hour. Undercover fee is between £ 45.00 – £ 100.00 per hour depending on circumstances. Counter Surveillance – Bug sweeping is £ 275.00 up to 1500 sq feet – £ 10.00 each additional 100 sq feet. With these fee’s you have to be made of money or have a real gut feeling that your partner is doing something they shouldn’t.

Private Detective agency Riding and Sons Investigations clients are professional and have disposable income. They pay anything from about £400 to several thousand pounds, depending on the nature of the job.

But if your partner has already admitted to being flirty on line, what else have they done or prepared to do that they won’t tell you. When does flirting become cheating?

According to psychologist Michael Brickey, author of Defying Aging and many other relationship experts, playful bantering or gentle flirting with someone outside of your marriage is harmless if proper boundaries remain intact. Those boundaries differ with each relationship, of course. What would be considered a violation in one marriage might be perfectly acceptable for another couple. Difference of opinions even occur within a marriage. These boundaries should be acceptable for you and your partner NOT JUST YOU.

If you are deleting your emails — either to her or from her — then this starts to go over the flirting to cheating line. if you notice that your correspondence with this person feeds your sexual fantasies (because an affair is often about sexual fantasy), then you are probably in dangerous waters. If the communications consist of subtle sexual overtones, then stop if you love the partner your wife – If it feels like foreplay in any way, that’s not good. This is cheating, not flirting.

If you are getting your intimacy needs met in an online relationship or with a co-worker with whom you playfully banter, you might stop to ask yourself why? It’s disrespectful to share intimate details about your marriage or your spouse, and especially in a discourteous manner or with a flip attitude. Imagine that your wife was overhearing your entire conversation. Would you still say it?

Let’s say your wife is constantly knocking you down, nagging at you, telling you to lose 20 pounds because she didn’t intend to marry a beached whale. The natural, or at least easy, thing to do is to find an attractive woman who will feed your ego and tell you that you’re sexy, funny, smart, and so on. Some folks may unconsciously seek out an admirer to get their spouse to take notice of them. It can be effective! But it’s also manipulative. There are healthier ways to increase your self-esteem and regain the power that you have lost in your own home.

Ask yourself? would you flirt and act the way you do with others in front of your wife? If nnot then you have already crossed that flirt lint to cheating ….. time to be honest with your partner what your doing before they find out – because they will.

 

 

 

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